I love my husband rimming me and eating my ass, however, when it comes to anal intercourse, we can only do that either after a LOT of warm up and extremely slow penetration, or with my knees around my ears and heels on his shoulders. This way has the least amount of pain for me, but it can be a bit awkward.
My husband is rather girthy which makes anal a bit of a challenge.
My question is… are there any suggestions on ways to loosen me up a bit more.
I’ve seen videos of girls inserting their own fist into their anus, or a baseball bat sized object! I don’t understand the attraction of that for a start, I mean, why??? And how can that not be painful? I find my husbands girthy penis painful!
Try plugging for several hours before engaging in anal sex as recommended by @Backdoorlover. Extensive anal play (rimming, fingers, and toys) worked for us, but take it slow and gradually increase the size of the toy. It took several months of slow, deliberate anal play with increasingly larger toys before I penetrated her ass with my cock. Mrs Colt swore my girthy cock would never find its way inside her ass but patience paid off and we can now enjoy anal sex with just a little foreplay.
If you are newer to anal it will take time to train your hole to accept larger toys and your husbands cock. A member on the other site described it very well… “anal is a journey, not a sprint”.
My wife was able to experience anal orgasm during anal play and months before she was able to take my cock. Because she was able to associate pleasure with anal play she learned to adapt and take larger toys and my cock. Rubbing your clit during penetration also helps associate pleasure with anal penetration. Some purists here discourage the touching of the clit during anal but it’s your body so you get to write the rules!
I wish you the best on your anal journey and hope you can experience the power of anal orgasm. For us, anal orgasm is “the reason for the season” and the holy grail of our anal only relationship. As the receiver make sure you provide feedback to your husband. You and your husband enjoy anal as much as we do and I assure you that you will learn how to take his thick cock with ease over time.
I’d like a few of the ladies in the group to chime in and offer their own suggestions. Once you experience anal orgasm, you may start to relax enough to really enjoy every inch of penetration. It changed our sex life in a most positive way. Best of luck on your anal journey and welcome to the group!
Thank you so much. I didn’t even consider training plugs! I do have one and the one time I used it my ass swallowed it whole!!! Freaked me out! I had to ‘poop’ it out!
I have experienced anal orgasm a couple of times when my husband massaged my perineum and rimmed me, and OMG it was awesome!! That is the most incredible orgasm ever!
As said before, plugs are a great way to prepare your ass. I have double anal most weekends but still normally plug myself before putting 2 (or 3!) in. I don’t always use lube but my friends swear by it. You are so lucky to crack anal orgasms. It took me ages to find the sweet spot. Most of all, relax, enjoy the intimacy and pleasure that anal sex offers. It sounds like you are well on your way.
If your ass swallowed your plug, you might need a bigger one, or at least one with a bigger base.
Many here swear by plugs with a t-shaped handle instead of the typical round base of many plugs (for example, jewel plugs).
Look around the forum for more toy and plug recommendations, they’ve been discussed quite a bit!
Have fun!
As @aNewFrivolity wisely suggested, try plugs with a t-handle. My wife’s ass also swallowed a smaller plug early in our anal ventures and she was able to squat and push it out avoiding an embarrassing trip to the ER! your ass swallowed a plug, you may not need the training set. I’ll reply with a link to the training set if you’re interested
I’ve ranted many times in this group about investing in quality toys for your ass. Metal plugs should be made of surgical stainless steel. They cost more than the cheap and sketchy non-stainless plugs sold on eBay, Amazon, Etsy, and other sites but cheap plugs are plated with metals that can leach toxins into your rectum. Cheaply made plugs have also resulted in flaking of the poorly applied plating resulting in razor sharp edges that can lacerate your sphincter or rectum. Ouch!
Below is a link to a t-handle plug I bought for Mrs Colt. Expensive? Yes, but this is jewelry for her ass. I wouldn’t buy my wife a $50 fake diamond ring if I could afford to spend a little more, so why in the world would I buy something cheap for her beautiful brown starfish?
Below is a link to a quality stainless plug significantly less expensive than the plug above. We don’t own an NJoy plug, but they are high quality and recommended by others on this forum.
You’ll notice the unique handle on the NJoy plugs. We use plugs for anal play, and this handle will make such play easier for your husband. My wife loves the stretch of plug insertion and removal, and we almost always include plug play in our anal only repertoire.
If you have the financial means, spend a bit more for quality and safety. We will have these plugs forever. I’ll stop short of referring to them as family heirlooms, but given the materials and quality of craftsmanship, they could pleasure asses for many hundreds of years to cum!
When you insert something in your anus without lube and experience, the area will start to feel sore after some strokes.
Also, lube helps to make slipping thing in way easier, and gets rid of irritation.
I experienced it first hand while inserting my fingers. With no lube (in this case, saliva because I didn’ have any), insertong a finger was kind of painful and sore, but with lube I managed to insert 4.
I should have included an @Colt1911 when I wrote my little recommendation. Stellar post as always!
I can attest to the quality of the njoy toys, as can close friends of mine.
One more thing, @8CatesAss, since you asked how to “loosen you up” a bit more: Think of what you’re doing with your butt less like loosening a tight knot and more like training a muscle for flexibility. Anal training is a lot like yoga!
2 or 3 in your ass at the same time? How???
How long did it take you to train your suns to do that? I love it when my husband stretches my anus. OMG it feels amazing! Thanks for your awesome replies, Cate
You mentioned anal intercourse is painful but you enjoy the stretch. Does the stretch cause the pain or is it the length of time your husband is penetrating your ass that causes the discomfort?
If you’re new to anal, it does take some time to adjust and learn what your sphincter is capable of. For its size, it’s the strongest muscle in the body. I can’t take more than a finger in my ass but Mrs Colt can do some amazing things with her little muscle. I think it’s why we both enjoy anal so much. It’s completely different… and better.
Aah so it’s his impatience which is the problem here.
He will really need to make more of an effort to start slowly, cause if he keeps doing it the wrong way, it will make the experience worse for you. And if you’re not into pain you will not keep enduring this. Believe me.
Several suggestions… first, it might be best if you did the “driving” during anal. If you mount him cowgirl you have more control over penetration. Also, angles of anal penetration can make a difference. Sometimes my wife will ask me to change the angle.
I don’t recall if you or your husband mentioned if anal sex is something you just started. If so, it does take time to adjust and you’ll find it just keeps getting better. If you enjoy the stretch it shouldn’t take long to adjust to the penetration. Provide feedback to your husband until you find the most comfortable position and speed and depth of penetration.
Using lots of lube may also help until you adapt to anal penetration. Rubbing your clit or using a vibrator may help your sphincter to relax making the experience more pleasurable. As they say, practice makes perfect and this is the only practice I know of that we both enjoy. Let us know if any of our suggestions help. Maybe some of the ladies in the group will chime in with suggestions of their own. Be patient… as you’ve already discovered, anal can be awesome.
Hi ya. I have double anal on a regular basis and I love it. Having my ass stretched with 2 cocks feels amazing. It didn’t take long to train for that. I did not train for triple. It was a last minute decision that Tiff and I made about 6 months ago. The third cock went in slowly. He has to push a little harder than the other 2 but as it was my boyfriend I knew he would be careful. Triple is not something I do on a regular basis. It was mainly a bucket list thing! I’ve only done it 4 times. Triple also has the added advantage of enjoying at least 2 loads of cum!
I love stretching too. I feel it’s more amazing than just penetration.
I never tried baseball, it’s too large for me. I can only take a small hand. But I do know one she loves huge objects. she says that’s the pressure makes her cum.
We’ve done anal maybe half a dozen times. It’s the pain during penetration that prevents me from doing it more often… and having a child in the next bedroom.
however, when it comes to anal intercourse, we can only do that either after a LOT of warm up and extremely slow penetration, or with my knees around my ears and heels on his shoulders. This way has the least amount of pain for me, but it can be a bit awkward.
I find my husbands girthy penis painful!
