What place does the pussy occupy when you have anal sex? Do you prefer to ignore it completely, as if this hole does not exist? Or maybe you somehow play up its non-participation in the process?
I sometimes like to have sex as if my wife does not have a vagina at all. Absolutely zero interest in it.
But most often (since I just love dirty talk in bed) I will definitely start some conversation on the topic of vaginal sex denial. For example, I can whisper to my wife if she is happy that she will never feel my dick in her pussy again? Or tell her how beautiful her cunt looks when it is empty and unused. I tell her that now her ass is a real pussy, and her vagina is a useless and unworthy hole.
Do not think that I am some kind of misogynist who likes to insult women. This is a game between my wife and me, my woman likes it no less than I do, and I never behave like this with my wife or other women outside of bed games.
That’s why intimacy and communications are key. If both are comfortable talking about that during sex play, then it’s not a problem. That’s why, before even attempting any sexual activity with a partner, both must be comfortable, stay communicated about their feelings and have intimacy.
Tho, I cannot answer about the main question because I’ve never experienced sex before.
I certainly perform oral on my wife - happy to do so on both her pussy and ass. But during the act of penetrative anal we don’t touch her pussy at all.
I totally get that some folks enjoy consensual degradation play. We do a little of that, but mostly I ask how wet her pussy gets while she gets her ass fucked.
while fucking in the ass we don’t touch vagina parts, but we also use clit in other cases. my husband likes to say similar things, and it’s so hot. he also like to tease me with his cock rubbing my vulva and asking whether I want it in. the standard answer should be like “no, my dirty vagina doesn’t deserve it”.
Wow! That’s so hot! I’m going to show your answer to my wife and tell her how much I’d love to hear something like that! Thanks!))
not sure if this fits, when he’s fucking another girl’s pussy, he also like me to watch and say something like “she feels so happy to have your cock in her pussy”, “your cock belongs to other pussy, not mine.”
That sounds like a fun way of playing, a very active variation on cuckqueaning, I would say.
How does it make you feel when he does that?
it’s humiliating, seeing his cock in other pussy makes me so want it. and knowing that’s not going to happen makes me want it too. holding the desire with no moving makes me feel proud.
I had an ex who knew how bad i wanted it my ass, so would tease me by using my pussy first.
is that why the ex became ex? 
That’s quite an advanced move 
Sounds fun 
I do some clitoral stimulation still and receive oral sex.
I’d love to go full no clit Anal Only but I still need it to get me started while being anally penetrated.
Even though our anal only relationship started with no clit stimulation, she came to enjoy (pun intended) a vibrator during anal penetration. Play is either anal only or 69 with a dildo in her ass and oral sex. I make her take the vibrator off so I can see her wet pussy, and then she tosses it aside as she orgasms. We definitely include pussy and clit play in our anal sessions.
Most of the time, me and my girl include clit and pussy play as part of lovemaking, for us it is normal and we always finish with anal. We are not exclusively anything and life is good.