This question came up this evening. We discussed our motivations for deciding to be AO. The step from occasional anal to AO was a big one for each of us. I sometimes think that I enjoy anal even more because it isn’t regarded as the norm and I like that. Am I the anvant garde type person? Not really. Do I think that anal gives pleasures and sensations that are not found anywhere else? Absolutely. Do I enjoy anal because I get to experience the amazing sensations while most people don’t? Its an added bonus!
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I have been an Apple user since late 90s. Back then owning and using a Mac was a bold choice cause windows computers were everywhere.
I have been a loyal participant of an Apple forum. And sometimes someone would say we needed to convince more people to switch to Apple computers.
I didn’t agree. I liked being in this niche group of people who knew better. I have the same feeling with anal only life. I feel not need to tell others, nore to convince anyone.
Going anal only is a very personal choice, mostly based upon good experiences with anal sex. So first there needs to be an interest to try anal sex. Which isn’t for everyone.
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I don’t see it that way. I’m very vanilla and my ideal lover is vanilla as well. It’s just that vaginal doesn’t work for me so if I have sex it gotta be the other way.
I think it easily could be about an individual pushing personal boundaries. Namely, what’s the most I can take at once?
I came to anal sex partly through curiosity about anal play that led to pleasure that led to a practical solution for multiple things I was dealing with, that has led to anal sex while dovetailing with a plugging… Well, I suppose I’m a plugging hobbyist… I do it out of sheer enjoyment as I please and often without the expectation of anal sex later and just because I want to. I certainly enjoy stretching to fit the next size up plug, but I’m not very aggressive about it.
If you’re talking moral or social boundaries, I don’t think I’m pushing moral boundaries at all. Maybe social, but I honestly don’t care. I’ll add it to the list with my lack of bras, minimalist shoes, herbal tinctures, and refusal to use sunscreen. 
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It was pushing boundaries when we started anal sex. We discovered the infinitely greater pleasure anal sex offers. Once the boundary was crossed, it’s all about the pure pleasure for us. It was fun and exciting as we pushed that boundary and I’m sure that added to that wonderful period of time.
The only “boundary” I’m excited about now is making each anal session as erotic and pleasurable for both of us as possible. I don’t think I have to convince anyone in this group that anal is the most erotic sexual act.
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I think you automatically switch from vanilla to rocky road when going to anal only. 
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About the boundarie thing.
In three stages in my life those boundaries were different.
First woman told me her ex hurt her while trying anal. She swore never to do that again, setting a boundarie. When I then told her I did fantasize about anal sex, she promptly dropped her boundarie en said she wanted to try it with me. We’ve had anal sex on occasions, but not with great succes.
Second woman offered me her other hole 6 weeks in the relationship. So seemed there was no boundarie for her. The anal fun started off very well en went on 2-3 times a week for about 2 years. Then all sudden she started putting up boundaries, and acting like she wasn’t even the one initiating this much anal sex. And just like that, anal was off the table and the boundary went up.
Third woman told me right away she enjoyed anal sex. But due to my bad previous experience I got overly cautious and held it off for months. Then I finally had the balls to admit I wanted to assfuck her and all boundaries vanished. Anal sex became a daily thing right away and I even had the nerve to ask her if ass to mouth was an option. Another boundarie through the door when she said she wanted to try it. Meanwhile we did double anal, another boundary gone. Ass to pussy, anal sex outdoors, anal on the job, …
No wonder I asked her to marry me 
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I haven’t done vanilla for quite some time! I was a cum in mouth addict before I lost my virginity. I was a bit greedy last night!!
When my boyfriend I started our anal journey he was reluctant to let me suck him after anal. Eventually I just took charge and told him it was happening!!
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Believe me Abbi, for a true anal loving male, ass to mouth is the epiphany of one on one anal sex.
Hell, my first wife absolutely refused to do pussy to mouth even
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I don’t see anal as pushing any boundaries. Anal sex has been around and practiced since the beginning of time. You only have to look at Sumerian culture and their sculptures. I’m not even sure it originally started with sex between gay men, there is history of Sumerian preistesses frequently engaging in anal sex as a method of contraception because they were not allowed to bear offspring.
Probably started both ways I suppose. So I don’t think anal sex is pushing any boundaries in the sense of new frontiers. Pushing the boundaries of pleasure though might be where anal does change boundaries, when people discover it for the first time properly.
I think this forum is more about “refining” its pleasure and practice, rather than pushing it.
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He’s a big fan now although he finds it a big turn on when I suck another man’s cock out of my ass and suck his out of one of the other girl’s ass.
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Perhaps it is pushing boundaries in that her and I are “exploring”. By exploring, we have found this wonderful new place that we would not have found otherwise.
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Exploring is a great description. I knew something was missing in my life and I fantasised about anal sex. When I met my boyfriend I felt safe to explore anal with him. He brought out desires and feelings I never experienced before. My anal cravings are now being satisfied.
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I think it’s about pushing boundaries to a degree. I mean anal is not “the norm”, we are pushing our comfort zone an tying new things. But these boundaries are all personal.
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Well I’m all about pleasure, so of course I’d say it’s about pleasure refinement! Certainly anal shifted my own personal boundaries and led me to discover a new landscape of pleasure.
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I sometimes like to be “avant-garde” in many things and aspects in my life as the gen-z I am, but then I crash into reality that the place where I am at and the family I have are more traditionalist.
Maybe is the reason I don’t like sharing that many things about me or sometimes fear or discard trying new things outside of what’s traditional. Sometimes you can see me amused by things that may seem obvious or trivial but for me are breakthroughs (like being able to sometimes cook my own breakfast or washing my clothes).
But the ability to try new and push boundaries is something that I’ll have to work on once I go out in the world on my own (and not perish while trying).
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It’s probably a question of what “the norm” means, and what we define as our boundaries.
Let’s put it this way: As has been said before, anal has always been around with humans. Whenever you see art that depicts it, it happened. When you have laws in any scripture against it: It happened. It’s happening all over the globe right now, with hetero, lesbian and straight couples, simply because anal feels good. In this way, anal is the norm, because so many people do it. Sure, other acts might be more common, but is a hand job not the norm because vaginal sex is happens more often? (If it does … I don’t have any numbers, but I think you get what I’m trying to say.)
There is, of course, another aspect: There’s a rather strong taboo associated with our asses. We are to think of them as dirty and not touch them. Having anal means crossing that line and saying “sure, it’s where I poop from, but it feels great and I want that.”
All that being said, I think the wildest thing we all do is speak about what we do in the bedroom, and the most abnormal thing, perhaps, is just how much we like anal.
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Yes, but if it has been around so long with humans (it has) and we like it (we do), maybe it is not so wild after all.
The only thing I remember about Dr. Ruth Westheimer (RIP, July 2024), is she said, “every generation thinks they are the ones who discovered sex”. I think the same can be said of anal sex and perhaps we are just rediscovering it with each generation.
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Sure anal is not as “normal” as vaginal. And “anal only” sounds like an anathema for the normies without imagination. But for those of us who like anal and deslike vaginal, it’s no big deal. It’s just ordinary sex.