Hey everyone!
I’ve been Anal Only for quite some time now, as many of us are and I’m curious to know how comfortable other members are with sharing this aspect of their lives with people they know in real life. Some people may feel more secure keeping it private, while others may find it liberating to be open about their preferences. It would be interesting to hear everyone’s thoughts on this.
As for myself I’m very open with those I’m close with. I’ve encouraged several women in my life to try anal sex, the results are a distribution ranging from having anal sex sometimes to a few also becoming completely Anal Only themselves. I don’t find anal sex to be taboo in any way and I’ve found that women are more receptive to trying anal sex when they hear other women talk about their own positive experiences, word of mouth is still the most effective way of spread the Anal Only Lifestyle.
I have also mentioned it to some students who have asked me about anal sex during guidance (when it comes to sex, after LGBT matters anal sex is the most frequent topic for various reasons) and have had positive personal experiences with their own initial explorations with anal sex and anal play.
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We don’t talk about our anal adventures to other people. For some reason we don’t feel a big need to.
I know early on, my girlfriend did talk about it with her friends, but they don’t understand why she even likes it nor will they try. So she stopped talking about it.
For me something strange happened. When I had anal with my previous woman, I had this urge to tell people. I told some friends and my older sister. Not that they were interested, but I felt like I needed to tell someone to make it true.
I absolutely don’t have that now. It’s not that I want to keep it secret. It’s more like not talking about sex in general. I rather just enjoy ass to mouth sex with my sweety instead of talking about it. 
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I once confessed my ideas and liking towards anal sex with two female friends of mine.
This happened this year.
I didn’t have enough courage to tell the first one, so I wrote all of my ideas in a Docs file.
After writing it, I felt ready to send it to her. I did it a night before going to my mandatory military service.
While doing it, during one of my rests, I looked at my phone to ser that she responded me, and I kind of felt into panic mode. But there I was a soldier, so I had to show no emotion. But ny heart kept pounding and I was so anxious I could only think of what she wrote during my service.
After I got home and had nothing to do, I opened WhatsApp and red what she wrote. Gladly, she didn’t insult me, laughed or whatever. She told me she wouldn’t criticize me because of my likings. After that, we had a somewhat uncomfortable (for me) conversation about it, using this vocabulary I’ve never used.
She is a friend I met in high school, and I rapidly created a lot of trust with her (she has partner, so I decided to just be friend). She told me she won’t into anal play for some reason, so I told her to “never say never” and she agreed.
Then, I did it with my other friend.
With the courage I had, it wasn’t hard for me to send the file. But still, I was nervous, considering she’s my best friend and the one I’ve known for the most time (her partner is a my friend and we agreed in 7th-9th grade to never be partners).
She also took it OK and said that she wouldn’t criticize me for it, although the conversation quickly shifted to a more serios topic about my self steem and such.
My journey has not even started and I already feel I lost it, but at least I can gather knowledge and meet other people online that shares my perspective.
I’ve encouraged and recommended anal to a number of friends as well, and all my partners know how much I enjoy the act.
I’m not sure how open I would be about being anal exclusive (if I ever made that move); I used to be more vocal about being into BDSM, and eventually felt that it’s not really all that important that people know.
Close friends though? I’ll always advocate for sexual experimentation in general and anal specifically 
It was due to a chat with a friend at Uni that my boyfriend and I discovered another couple who were interested in anal sex. This gave us the opportunity to share ideas safely and explore many pleasures we never thought possible! We have agreed that sharing our experiences on forums is permitted but videos and images must be kept private.
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I’ve not discussed it with any friends. I’d certainly own up to liking anal if it somehow organically came up, but I’d likely not mention being anal only, not sure why.
My wife has eagerly discussed loving anal with a variety of friends (but not being anal only). In at least one case discovered one friend also loves anal. And another friend decided to try anal after my wife’s “testimony” and wound up really enjoying it.
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I’d say that’s a clever choice in the age of the internet, where no image is ever forgotten once it’s out in the wild.
But I know the appeal of taking pics as well. It’s nice to have physical memories (or evidence 
) of the more outrageous things one has done
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Women and girls talking to each other about their positive anal experiences is single most effective way for them to start others on their Anal Only journey.
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I participate in this forum because I’m unable to share our anal only experience with others. It would be a very awkward conversation with family, and my friends really don’t discuss sex. I had anal sex with two women in college before I met my wife and I shared that with friends at the time, but that was when I was in my early 20’s.
My wife’s greatest fear is our adult children finding all of our anal toys and my wife’s leather strapped lingerie in the event we both perish at the same time. I know my son and son in law would be laughing out loud and high fiving each other knowing we enjoyed a very active sex life.
It was important I discovered this group years ago to share this very special thing we discovered. Our discovery was much more profound because it occurred so many years into our marriage. This is the perfect forum for those of us unable to share their experiences with others.
I can’t imagine telling others my wife squirted in my mouth in 69 while I was slowly inserting and removing a 2” diameter plug from her ass. Not something I ever expect will surface in conversation, but I can talk about it here!
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lol, I think you have directly hit one of the key roles the forum plays that I have not spent much time thinking about - it is exactly that safe place to share my love of anal that I can’t do in real life without stigma or shame. In fact, we can celebrate it!
But you have raised a very interesting point, what happens to our physical toys, porn, etc if something happens to us? Our children finding plugs, anal porn dvds, some leather restraints and floggers may send them in to some level of shock! lol I think I see a new discussion with my wife around what happens if one of us goes first, and also what if we both went at same time (e.g, vehicle accident).
Does anyone have a plan for such things?
A solution may be to raise your children with good sexual education so they won’t stigmatize you and others.
I wouldn’t worry about your children finding any of your sex toys and what not.
If the sexual trends of teens and young adults continues the way they are, they will be even filthier than us.
When I started teaching the number of teens engaging in anal sex for example was 1 in 4, now it’s 1 in 2. Sibling and cousin incest is quite common as is animal sex. The number of girls asking me about dog sex has went from zero to a few a year. I try and be as open minded and non judgemental as possible but it’s mad out there.
So yeah your BDSM gear and butt plugs, tame. 
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I agree with the others, your kids finding your sex toys probably wouldn’t be such a bad thing. Let me tell you a story. I’m in my 30s now, and have been raised to always know about the birds and bees. That is to say, I can’t remember a time I didn’t know what sex was. Still, sexuality carried a huge stigma in the house I grew up with, and discussion apart from the most clinical terms was not allowed.
Still, I grew up being very open about sexuality, very accepting of its important role in relationships, and the things you can hear me talk about here are pretty much the same I talk about with friends (less anal-centric, though, but anal plays a role ). If I found any sex toys my dad might leave behind, I would laugh and be happy for him.
But also, full disclosure: He once did make me feel very uncomfortable when he decided to try and discuss the lack of sex with his then new wife with me, while in a car that he was driving. That made me feel cornered and forced, and since we had never established a mode for discussing such things, also rather invasive. Just in case you decide to breach the subject with your kids (who might be much more open about it than you think, just not with you, as they probably grew up learning not to discuss sex with you), do so in an open setting
My girlfriend is kinda cool on that behalf of sex toys.
The second year after her divorce, she and her ex did something called birdnesting. Meaning the kids stayed in the house while the parents switched between their co-owned house and the houses of their new partners.
So imagine we were in the house for a week, fucking daily in that bed. And she just forgot her buttplug on the nightstand for his girlfriend to find.
Or she forgot to put away her anal douche in the bathroom. I loved it. It was a sign how much the anal only lifestyle resonated with her soul.
Meanwhile she bought the house and we’re living in a co parenting. The week her kids are not there, the plug, vibrator and dildo are at arm’s lenght. But then her adult daughter showed up unexpected, goes for a smoke on the terras and then passes our bedroom because it’s the shortest way to her own room. A hot pink buttplug laying straight in her eyesight. Impossible that she didn’t notice it. 
So the plugs are already known I think. It doesn’t seem to bother her that much.
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That is how Tiff and I started our anal journey in earnest! Karen and Cory joined us following a chat when I was prepping the aircraft she was going to take her lesson. Still can’t remember how we got on to the topic!!
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We are not anal only but do enjoy it most times we make love. It is hard to imagine telling anyone I know about anal or any other aspect of my sex life. Maybe on my death bed…
I agree with some others here who state this site is our release, where we can share anonymously those details we would not dare tell a friend or relative. Thank goodness too, it has really helped me, and I presume others.
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Please don’t take offense at this, but I find the idea rather hilarious that someones’s last words would be “by the way, I really liked anal”. Just that, and then death comes to take them
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The clip below is from one of the most famous motion pictures of all time, Citizen Kane. The last word uttered before the character played by Orson Welles died was “rosebud”. Could that have been a veiled reference to anal sex? (Just kidding).
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No offense taken and after thinking about it, I may change my attitude. I’m 63 and did not discover anal until I was about 51. So I feel cheated in that nobody mentioned this other wonderful life which could be so fulfilling, satisfying and no worry of pregnancy; I accidentally discovered it on my own.
What if I could be the one to help someone else and tell them what had not been told to me? I will do some deep thinking.
two of my best friends know it. one of them never tried anal, and the other doesn’t like it. they don’t believe it at first and every couple month, they’d ask if I have break it. they are kind of expecting it.
