How it is the sensation of knowing that you are and will be a Anal Only for life?

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How it is the sensation of knowing that you are and will be a Anal Only for life?

I’m a heterossexual dom male, so nothing goes in my butt because I think that being penetrated in any form (even with tongue or fingers) are a sign of submission. So I only can imagine how ridiculous hot should be it for a woman to imagine her butthole as her primary and only place of pleasure and to treat her pussy with disdain or even apathy. The clitoris getting more and more sensible to the touch each month or year that it’s ignored and still, you can’t put anything in, and your pussy only has the purpose of peeing, having period, provide lubrification to your asshole, or, maybe, be a little decoration as a farewell gift reminding your silly decisions of youth. Damn, if I’m a man and get hard about it, imagine how must be for anal only girls.

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Sorry for the english errors. Maybe practing writing long texts will improve my writing.

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Prior to me, my girlfriend loved anal in her previous marriage too. Although she didn’t like having sex with him, the last 5 years of that marriage, at least she could enjoy having anal sex.

But there was absolutely nothing spritual or submissive about it then. That all started with me.

With me she turned into a submissive, eager anal slut after only one assfuck. Later became my ass to mouth slut, by resuest, too.

Having her ass fucked is her biggest joy. She seems to experience my orgasm as if it’s her own, making her that woman who focusses mainly on me shooting up her ass or mouth. Sometimes she plays with her clit (or I do it) so she orgasms too. But mainly she’s my free use ass to mouth princess, meant to make me cum.

For reasons, originating from my first marriage, it’s very fullfilling for me that she prioritizes my orgasm every day of the week. My ex was a selfish woman who never, in any occasion, put my needs above hers. If I failed to make her cum, she would guild trip me over it, every chance she got.

My girlfriend often treats my orgasm as her own. Living up to the moment I shoot my load up her ass. Moaning and panting like crazy and even cheering me on, just before I ejaculate.

If I ask her about it, she says submitting to be a fulltime ass to mouth princess, and abandoning her pussy, was a logical decision. She never felt real joy from pussy fucks, from her teens on. Only when she discovered anal sex, she felt sexual joy. Her ex sadly wasn’t that good at it, making her miss out a lot if pleasure.

She tells me, every time the topic comes up, that going anal only with me is the best thing that happened to her. Her asshole is her pleasure hole. No doubt about that.

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Please understand that not all women who use this forum, not all women who are AO and not even all women who describe themselves as submissive enjoy or even accept being called a slut.

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Yes, that why I use the term in some occasions when I feel she’ll understand it without any negative emotion surrounding it.

If she just gave me an outstanding blowjob, and I lovingly call her my suckslut, she laughs a bit shy and her eyes spark. It’s all about timing and empatic connections.

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Sorry @Backdoorlover I didn’t mean you but @BrazilianAnalSexual . You referred to one woman you know intimately as a slut, but Calebe wrote a post in which he addressed every woman here as such.
I should’ve replied to him directly, sorry!

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I didn’t feel adressed, I was just agreeïng with your statement and putting some nuance into it.

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After I posted I realized this term could be a problem. I literally copypasted this text from a text that I wrote to a specifically person and I forgot to adapt it, but I thought that only woman that liked this type of language would relate to the post and answer. I corrected already

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I am interested in hearing from those who are AO and for some time. It takes two to tango and if my other half ever asked to do this, I certainly would, however, it is a process. Most of the things we do she thought we would never do, so, it’s a process. Anal is normally how we make love, but we have both chosen to not rule anything out; we like options.

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I find the terms like anal or oral slut as a term of endearment depending on who says it! One thing I am not is submissive. My ass is always on my terms although I relinquish some control to the 4 men (yes 4, we have a new couple, Karl and Becky are in our little team). I am adamant that all available cum goes in my mouth, not in my ass. That is non-negotiable! I’ve recently started to include clitoral stimulation. I’m no longer an AO purist but I’m glad I did. My anal orgasms seem to be more intense since introducing clitoral orgasms as part of my foreplay. Will I be AO for life? No because I want to have children although I will probably be craving anal something rotten!

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That submissive part is tricky. Sometimes my girlfriend appears submissive, but in her core she’s not. There are just some occasions where she loves being guided into actions.

She loves it if I tell her to rince her rectum because I will let her do ass to mouth later. Or telling her to plug her ass, so she will be ready for a good pounding later. And my favorite, which I don’t do often enough, is pulling my cock out of her ass and “demanding” her to suck it.

All these actions come over as submissive, but I realize she does it because she wants to. Is submitting to something you want really submissive ?

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interesting, then, from what I understand, you’re not horny about having your pussy denied, but you are for anal sexual pleasure itself. My intention with the post is to try to understand how it is structured, and what gives fire to the sexual desire of women who want to keep their pussies chaste, untouched and want to use their asses as the only source of pleasure. As a man I can say what I feel, and try to rationalize a little about this fetish.

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A philosophical question, cool.
Submission is being under the power of another, respecting, and consequently obeying. It is not a term made specifically for sexuality, but it falls very well. Previously I was in submission to my parents, from whom I was asked for things I wanted and did not want, I am in submission to the political authorities, which in short most I despise, and I am in submission to God, of which I am pleased to be, and in the vast majority of decisions I agree, although I do not fully understand some, and in others, despite rationally agreeing i see it as emotionally very costly or even unpleasant.
Looking at the different points, I would say that submission is independent of whether or not the submissive wants to do something, but it ends when she stops doing something because she does not want to.
This will apply to any power relationship between a ruler and the governed.
However, in the romantic and sexual relations of Western civilization there is a particularity. Since they are directly descended from the concept of Christian marriage and the concept of Christian servitude, they are logically subject to the concept of Christian submission, which is not defined by an imposed force incapable of being resisted, but rather by a conscious choice to be submissive or servant. That is, authority is not defined by power through force, but rather by the recognition of moral authority.In Christian marriage, a woman chooses a man to whom she must be submissive, and she chooses to be submissive to him. She must clearly observe whether he is someone just enough to be submissive. However, since the duty of submission is not to him, but to God, if the husband makes decisions that she does not agree with, or finds bad, she is not allowed to be insubmissive, unless it directly implies sinning against his faith.
That is, in both cases, secular submission or Christian submission, doing something you already intended to do does not nullify submission, but not doing something because you do not want to, would nullify submission.

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“Slut” can be a term of endearment and arousal but of course only with someone you know really well and you both know each other enjoy that kind of talk.

Dirty talk could be a topic on its own. I think it qualifies as a fetish.

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Probably no reason to change, just that your pussy becomes the cum receptacle not your mouth, just for one special load! You can still take the other men’s cum in your mouth. You could even go DP and/or airtight for a while.

Appropriate hygiene implied.

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In the bdsm scene, most people come to realize pretty early on that the dynamic of dominance and submission is much more complicated than “dom/domme demands, sub obeys”.
If, as you say, sub would only submit when they do what they wouldn’t have done anyway, well, what reason would they have to do it, why would they stay with their dom/me? Ah, but of course, because they get off on doing what they’re told, you’ll say. But if they get off on it, don’t they want to be told what to do? So if they only “truly” submit when they do what they don’t want to do, but they want to be forced to do what they don’t want to do …

Here, it becomes complicated of course. It’s always a game in which it’s never clear what’s “truly” happening. As a dom, the wants and needs of my subs are incredibly important to me, and empathy is my most valued tool. It’s my responsibility to make sure all involved in a session have a good time, feel lust, can let go and trust me to make the right decisions.
On the most basic level that means that I won’t ever cross their hard limits which we have discussed beforehand.
On a more difficult level, it means that they (and I, too) want to feel that I’m in total control; doing so within the confines of safety, their hard limits, while considering their wishes and preferences, AND knowing that the session can always end by using a safe word (most often subs do this, but dom(me)s can use them as well) is quite the challenge.

It’s much, much more than knowing what you want, and never getting what you want despite of what your partner wishes. That last one is called abuse.

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I have no experience with dom/sub relationships but I did once hear someone say, and I think it was a woman, hard to recall, that subs like being subs because they want to do the things they are told to do but don’t want to take responsibility for it. “I did it because I was told to.” It is a loophole if you will, or a way around all their social conditioning which is telling them these things are disgusting, unholy, unclean, makes them trash, not permitted, et cetera. Just one psychological theory. Human behaviour is complex and often there are many reasons not just one so I expect there are other theories and reasons for such realtionships.

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People, I think we’re heading seriously off topic here. The opening post had nothing to do with BDSM. :grin:

Maybe create a BDSM topic in advice or share ?

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My understanding is that anal sex was used over millennia to protect the hymen for marriage, honour etc. My vagina responds when I am enjoying anal sex. It is not completely defunct and when we decide to have children it will be very busy! When I started my anal journey I was given sage advice to stop clitoral and vaginal pleasure as this will accentuate the sensations from anal sex. I was sceptical but I gave it a go and over a few months that proved to be the case. I’m not a purist in any way and I’ve recently started enjoying clitoral orgasms which were quite powerful due to the time since my last one.

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Be submissive is kind of the main reason why I’m anal only now, and I’d also consider it as the most important part of my sexual desire. To me, the status to be commanded to do something is more sexy than just do the actions.

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