Hi there, 40-something woman from Germany here.
Definitely not AO (although the idea is intriguing), but very much into anal. Currently single, so apart from occasional ONS (usually not anal, unless I’m very lucky) mostly into self help. Just ordered a bunch of toys (again) to help with training…
Let me know if more information is needed.
Welcome to the forum, I hope you have a good time here. 
Welcome to the group. Let me know if you have any questions regarding anal toys. I can recommend items that are safe and will last forever.
I wonder how it will be received when a single woman tells her date she would prefer anal sex.
I can imagine that said date will suddenly feel a huge urge to get you into bed. 
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Not really - a surprising number of guys aren’t into anal sex all that much - or at all…
Ok, not sure I’m using the reply function correctly - is it visible whom I’m replying to?
Yeah, would love toy recommendations - I find silicon very much takes on the smell, so my go-to are metal or hard plastics (bit afraid of glass). But most of the trainers only seem to exist in silicon?
When you reply to another post, you’ll see an arrow pointing to the first initial of the members name. You did reply to me as you’ll see in the upper right hand corner of your reply.
One of our favorite toys is a silicone dildo made by Uberrime. You’ll always see me recommend the highest quality anal toys because they’re used in her beautiful ass. Platinum silicone is the best and most “body safe” silicone available. We’ve used it for years and it doesn’t retain odor, but we always wash it after each use. You are correct that silicone, even platinum silicone, can retain odor but that hasn’t been the case for us. Because my wife is experienced, she prefers thicker, stiffer dildos. Below is a link to another dildo I may buy from Uberrime.
We also use glass dildos but they can break when dropped. My wife broke one when she tossed a stainless plug aside striking the glass dildo laying on the bed. That was a freak accident, and quality glass dildos made of borosilicate glass are the most resistant to breaking. Never buy a glass plug with a thin neck (like in the photo below) as it could break off in your ass!
I prefer to travel with our silicone and stainless steel toys as they won’t break during the handling.
Our favorite butt plug vendor is Rosebuds from France. They make beautiful and high quality stainless steel butt plugs and anal toys. We have three of their jeweled plugs and one of their stainless anal toys. They are not cheap, but will last forever and is a piece of jewelry her ass deserves. Below are links to her two favorites from this vendor.
The 1.5” diameter plug (about 40mm in diameter) is made of surgical stainless steel and weighs one pound (.45 kilograms). Heavy plugs turn her on because she always knows it’s there.
Another quality stainless steel plug that isn’t as expensive as the Rosebuds ass jewelry is nJoy. Their plugs are also made of high quality surgical stainless steel.
The cheaper metal plugs are electroplated and the very thin layer of plating can flake off and cut your sensitive ass… ouch! The plating material can also leach out nickel and other metals in your rectum. When it comes to metal, surgical stainless steel is a must. They are heavy, will last forever, and because of their heavy weight, have a constant “presence” in your ass.
I hope this helps and welcome to our group!
Probably because they are afraid to take on that part of the body (you know why).
I’m afraid too, but after some explorations on my own, I realized I could just: “imagine you plunge your hand into the trash bin to look for that receipt you threw. You can just wash your hands after it (or you can wear a glove)”.
Anyways, welcome to the forum. Feel like you’re home.
Could be the “trash bin” effect.
But then, if a ONS asked me to just do pegging and no PIV (or, for me, PIA 
that would definitely feel weird too - a cross between “What’s wrong with you?” and “What’s wrong with my pussy/ass that you don’t want it around your cock?”
So I guess that needs some familiarity?
Thanks for the long reply. Heavy definitely is best, and with a fairly wide stem.
I actually have one “real” rosebud (as well as a few lighter fakes), but the stem really is quite thin, and it definitely could be heavier.
Welcome and willkommen, analena!
I hope you’ll enjoy your stay here. In case you’re willing to give glass a second chance, I would heartily recommend Glass Vibrations to you. They’re based in Germany, I’ve always been super happy with their products, and they’re just beautiful.
You just have to really, really, really ignore the product descriptions.
As for your initial question if more information is needed: It’s all good, especially if you engage with other members like you’re doing right now.
Another one of those cases where porn and real life differ enormously. I wonder, though, how these guys feel about anal when watching porn. Statistically, most of them will watch porn, and it’s part of most movies these days.
Do they skip it, or do they get off on the idea, just not the execution?
You’re a real ambassador for proper anal toys!
Well I may have another insight in this matter.
So I knew I wanted to fuck a girls ass when I was 15. First girlfriend wouldn’t even talk about it. Second girlfriend wanted to do it and we did. Not much, but it happened. I married her and divorced her after 23 years. Met another woman who freely offered me her other hole. It was the first time I could have good anal sex and a few times a week even. I loved it and I thought she did too. Then she became more toxic by the month and started calling me gay for wanting her asshole that much. She blamed me for using her, hurting her ald basically anal raping her against her will.
So when I met my current girlfriend something very weird happened. Second time we’ve had sex she told me she could only cum while her asshole was fucked. So she said straight up she needed anal sex to cum. Even so I told her I didn’t want anal sex, purely out of self preservation because the impact of my previous womens’ words cut deep.
It took me 2 months to get over that barriere and admit that I really wanted to assfuck her.
I suffer from OCD so I tend to obsess about things I really like. I also work in risk management which explains my concern for safe products.
As far as “glass in the ass” is concerned, Mrs Colt’s favorite toy is a glass dildo. I bought the one below after she accidentally broke her favorite glass piece after tossing a 1 pound stainless butt plug aside.
She loves glass in her ass but it isn’t the best toy to travel with. Here’s what I bought to replace the piece she broke
@Colt1911 any recommendations for glass dildos that are untextured?
You’re going to get a reputation as the “toys person”. 
I love being the master of Mrs Colt’s ass, so researching, buying, and using them on her ass gives both of us pleasure.
We purchased a large thick neck glass plug from this great vendor. He worked with me to create more of a taper on the head of this plug. She doesn’t wear this plug but enjoys the stretch it gives her. 2” is her limit and she always squirts as I ease it in her ass.
@LindyMc you’ll find a wide selection of smooth glass toys from this quality vendor. Mrs Colt enjoys the vein like texture on the other glass dildo I referenced. Here’s one that might suit your fancy.
The owner will work with you if you want to make modifications. Happy shopping!
Y’know, people have different prefences. Some “normie” would say something like: “why you don’t want to use your vagina for pleassure? It evolved for it”, or “why do you want to be penetrated in the anus and not penetrate?”. The same dilema for basically anything else.
Thanks for the pointer, some look quite promising.
Never asked (maybe I should the next time round), but I guess they’ll not get turned on by it in pornos either.