Sorry I didn’t get back to you sooner.
There are a lot of dodgy people professing to be Tantra Master’s or Practitioner’s” that are out there.
I don’t know where you live Colt1911 but I just Googled “Tantric Practitioners near me or in Australia” which is where I live. You could do the same wherever in whatever country you live in. To sort the wheat from the chaff so-to-speak, is to have a talk/chat wish the administrators that run the Tantric Course/Retreat. I would ask them for phone numbers of couples that have attended the course, retreat, to quiz, ask them how they found the course, how it is run, and most importantly - how it has changed them in their relationship. I mean, that is what we did. That’s how we gained trust that this was for us. Trust that you find one.
Respectfully, I think the situation here is comparable to a young man being worried about his car stalling during his first driving lesson.
Telling him how to diagnose and remedy stalling cars would be topical, but I think reassuring him that having a car stall during his first driving lesson is nothing to worry about is more important than giving him advice on how to take care of an engine.
I’m worried @iAmTheGunman 's takeaway from this thread will be that he needs to take a tantra course before he should become intimate with a woman. But at this point, he knows nothing of his stamina at all, and even less of his future partner. So it’s an understandable worry, but not one, I think, that requires any action. He’ll be fine with his future partner, and together, they’ll discover what they need and want.
My two cents.
Any problems that may or may not arise are best solved together with the person he ends up dating eventually.
Quite right. It’s not a solo journey. Facing and solving problems together is a part of relationship building. Beyond the mutual attraction and even the bonds of love forming working together is just as important if the relationship is to last, speaking from my own experience.
This thread has raised some thoughts. My partner always wants to have things finished in an hour, whereas I would love 2 hour sessions and even all day but I’m getting a perspective that never occurred to me before; from her point of view. I do recall the times where I have lost control and cum “too soon” (according to whose definition?) and she has seemed quite pleased.
One thing is being able to ladt long enough to at least focus on sensation, and another is literally just cumming from the heat of the body.
I don’t have any experience outside from self-masturbation but if I don’t las that long on those (maybe less than a minute) then I don’t have that much hope for when the moment comes (if ever)…
Oh wait I’m just reading the ither answers.. I’ve been away for so long after I had that crushing dream.
Ah yes, indeed that happened (and still happens) to me. I drive manual, and tho I had a bit of knowledge on how the clutch worked, I still had frequent stalls. It took me a lot of time of practice to just being able to drive to my university.
But I get the point. The journey for everyone is different. Mine hasn’t even started yet, so I guess I shouldn’t worry about things that I have no experience with anyways. My views are just theoricals to what really happens, and until the moment comes, I won’t know.
I’m really aware of it and that’s the reason I haven’t engaged in any relationship with any girl (the only one lasted a day and years after she became hostile to everyone). So I’m still lacking the part of having someone (like to run you first have to walk, for me to walk I first have to stand straight).
I’m almost unable to show signs of affection and attraction in any way that’s noticable anyways, so I don’t really see it coming in the long run (or perhaps I’ll remain single, y’know 50/50). But as the elder of this forum have told me, life has many days and it can change in one of those.
But, I’m still stuck with planning for the short term, and I only have a single vague plan for the future, so I first have to fix myself.
As I read it, you are diagnosed with ASS ?